How Snoring is Affecting Your Relationship in Ways You Didn’t Know

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  • What is snoring 
  • Snoring in your relationship
  • Negative impacts of snoring 
  • Decrease in intimacy 
  • Come together, instead of apart 
  • Textbook snorer 
  • How to stop snoring 

What is snoring

Snoring can be recognised as the hoarse grunting or purring sound that occurs when a person’s breathing is obstructed. Medical Author Siamak N. Nabili, MD, MPH states that at the back of your throat (behind the nose and mouth) is the pharynx, which connects to the oesophagus. The pharynx can vibrate during sleep causing you (or your partner) to snore. Even the shape of your nose and jaw can increase the odds of snoring. 

The Australian Health Foundation’s research found 45% of adults snore occasionally, shedding light on the magnitude of this issue. While we all know the frustrations of snoring or being a victim of someone else’s snoring, 75% of snorers actually have obstructive sleep apnea (short bursts of interrupted breathing while sleeping).

Snoring in your relationship 

We have all been there, desperately tired and anxious to sleep… stuck wide awake because the person beside us is SNORING. The Sleep Health Foundation conducted a survey finding that 24% of men and 17% of women reporting loud snoring, so the odds are either you or your partner snores. 

When we are in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, a little quirk like snoring does not seem so bad! But what about a few years down the track, when night after night of terrible sleep for one person in the relationship accumulates. 

One partner feels frustrated that they are unable to get to sleep or are constantly interrupted by the noise of the snoring. While the other feels frustrated that they are being woken by their partner for snoring and like they are being blamed for something they have no control over.

Negative impacts of snoring 

Snoring negatively impacts the sleep of the snorer and the person they share a bed with. While the obvious negative impacts are sleep deprivation, frustrated partners and fatigue for both members of the relationship

According to The Australian Sleep Health Foundation’s research, “40% of respondents complained that their snoring partners affected their mood. Also, 23% of them said that mating possums produce less annoying sounds than their partners.” Terrifying right? 

The less obvious negative impacts include; 

Decrease in intimacy 

Sadly, The National Sleep Foundation found that 25% of couples choose to sleep separately as a result of snoring. “Pillow talk” is recognised as an important part of many couple’s relationships, spending the time before sleep planning, catching up on the day and reconnecting. 

Snoring can also impact upon couple’s sex lives, as one or the other is too exhausted or in a separate room. This interrupted intimacy can impact on the harmony of any relationship, but does it have to? 

Come together, instead of apart 

It is easy to see how snoring can place a wedge between couples, as you both get woken up by one another in the endless cycle of snore, wake up, snore, wake up. Sleep deprivation can cause fuses to run short and tension to build. 

You can try working together to find solutions, to help ease the resentments that can build. Couples can see sleep specialists together, enquire with their doctor and/or search for corrective tools to help solve the snoring. 

If seperated sleeping does seem like the best solution right now, then make time to come together as a couple and have moments of intimacy. Throw around ideas together and find the best solution short term and long term to ensure all your needs are met. 

Textbook snorer 

Anyone can snore, you are more likely to during a bout of illness such as the common cold, sinusitis or another sickness. Sleeping on your back will also increase your tendency to snore. However, Better Health Victoria’s research found a habitual night snorer will typically be; 

  • Male 
  • 30 to 65 years of age
  • Overweight 
  • Of high blood pressure 
  • Told alcohol or a cold worsens snoring 

How to stop snoring 

The simple answer is to keep trying different solutions until something works.

So if you or your partner is snoring, try to remember that they are not intentionally disturbing your sleep. Work together as a team to find solutions for overcoming this issue together – so it doesn’t drive you apart! 

Trial and error can be extremely helpful in finding a permanent solution that works for you specifically. Most importantly, prioritise patience and teamwork so to promote harmony within your relationship. 

Possible solutions found by Hoffsetin’s research

  • Reduce alcohol intake 
  • Lose excess weight 
  • Treat nasal congestion and allergies 
  • Avoid sleeping on your back 
  • Avoid sleeping tablets

More serious solutions can include seeing a sleep specialist, being tested for sleep apnoea and the use of snore prevention devices such as a Mandibular Advancement Splint (more about MAS and its benefits here)

Sources

Snorex has strict sourcing guidelines and relies on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutions, and medical associations.

1. Australian Sleep Health Foundation, Available at:

https://www.sleephealthfoundation.org.au/

2. Better Health Victoria. Victoria State Government, Available at: 

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/snoring

3. Hoffstein, V. 1996. “Snoring.” Chest. Gale Academic Onefile. Available at: 

https://go.galegroup.com/ps/anonymous?id=GALE%7CA17810881&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=00123692&p=AONE&sw=w

4. Medicine Net, Snoring Causes, Aids, Remedies, Solutions. Available at; 

https://www.medicinenet.com/snoring/article.htm

5. National Sleep Foundation, 2005. Available at:

https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sites/default/files/inline-files/2005_summary_of_findings.pdf#page=31

6. Sleep Health Foundation Survey. Available at: 

https://www.sleephealthfoundation.org.au/pdfs/surveys/SleepHealthFoundation-Survey.pdf

7. Sleep Guardian, Snoring is a leading cause of divorce. Available at; 

https://sleepguardian.com.au/blogs/news/snoring-is-a-leading-cause-of-divorce

8. WebMD, The Basics of Snoring. Available at: 

https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/guide/snoring